Yesterday my kid called me with the news that a former high school classmate, now 19 and attending Cornell, had shot and killed his father in their suburban tract house. The boy’s mother told the 911 dispatcher that the boy was defending himself from the father when he shot his dad multiple times with a shotgun. After the shooting, the boy and mother waited on the snowy driveway of the house for the sheriff’s deputies to arrive.
I only knew this young man as a boy who played in the band with my kid. He was friends with some of my kid’s group of friends, but I don’t think he had ever been in our house.Neighbors say that he was always polite and helpful.
There had been a number of domestic violence calls to the home. Late yesterday, the boy’s attorney told the press that there had been “decades” of domestic violence and abuse perpetrated by the father on the children. The parents are first- or second-generation Asian immigrants–I don’t know enough about their culture or their family situation to know why nobody asked for more help.
I don’t know if the gun was the father’s or the son’s. All I know is that it was there in a terrible situation and now someone is dead. This is the second time in a couple of years that a gun plus a volatile domestic situation has led to death in a generally peaceful little suburb.