This week has been a good week for marriage. Pennsylvania and Oregon’s bans have been struck down, and Utah must recognize all marriages that were legally performed in that state. One friend from college announced that her wedding in Canada would most likely be cancelled and relocated to her home town once details are re-arranged. Another college buddy happily posted that his boyfriend of twelve years is now expecting a ring as they agreed that they would not get engaged or married if they could not do it at their home.
I was also home as my almost two year old son had just enough day care crud to keep him home.
When I heard the Pennsylvnia news, I looked at my son, and thought about my almost five and a half year old, which makes her almost six daughter and I cried as I thought about the possibility spaces of their futures.
I don’t know much about my kids’ futures.
I know that they will always be loved and treasured. I know my daughter probably won’t get that Division 1 soccer scholarship unless there is a rules revolution for a butterfly chasing position. I know my daughter will be a dork (which is a good thing as my wife and I can raise a dork, we would be clueless about how to raise a social butterfly). I know my son will think his big sister is the most awesome person in the world, and that my daughter does her best to maintain that perception. I know that their option space and potentiality space is massively wider than my mine was at their age.
I have no clue as to whether or not they are straight, gay, bi or something else and in-between.
I do know that by the time they start having those awkward feelings about that cutie in second period English, same sex marriage will be an anachronistic term that Mom and Dad occassionally use to show how unwith it we are.
I do know that whatever they are, they’ll be living in a world where if they find someone who makes them be the best person that they can be, they’ll be able to marry that person without worrying about the implications of moving across state lines. I do know that if they find someone like I found in my wife and their mother, they can be as lucky as I have been and am.