Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin, who’ve been together for more than 50 years, are finally married:
The lesbian couple were the first to participate in a 2004 challenge of California laws against same-sex marriage, exchanging wedding vows only to see the ceremony voided later.
But on Monday, Martin, 87, and Lyon, 84, exchanged vows again. This time, California law — at least for now — was on their side.
“I think it’s a wonderful day and I have to thank our mayor for most of it,” Lyon said. “I’m very happy and very grateful for all of you.”
San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom, who helped launch the series of lawsuits that led the court to strike down California’s one-man-one-woman marriage laws, presided at their wedding at City Hall.
Lyon and Martin will now be able to inherit from each other, have hospital visitation rights, and share in the many of the same things straight couples do (with the exception of federal benefits.) What won’t change is the state of your marriage. You and your husband or wife will still be able to love each other, raise your kids, file a joint tax return, and all the things you’ve been doing together for years. And if all that comes crashing down around Tony Perkins and Jim Dobson because Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin got married yesterday, they may feel the urge to scapegoat them. If allowing gays to marry is going to affect their marriages, then they probably just have a shitty marriage to begin with.
The truth is, for people like Dobson, Perkins, and supporters of theirs everywhere, this is not about marriage at all; it is about power and not wanting anything to change without their say-so. It’s about control of the political process and they will object to any social change if it doesn’t fit within their narrowly defined, small-minded worldview. When decisions are made that they have no control over, they see that their power over the process is slipping away. They see their power over the way people think and their ability to shape the debate diminish greatly. That must be a tremendous blow to their egoes. I thoroughly enjoy watching them implode and embarrass themselves on national television.
Oh, and it’s about raising millions of dollars to line the coffers of their churches and organizations and their own pocketbooks. Yeah, that too.
(photo credit: San Francisco Chronicle – Liz Mangelsdorf)