Reader video
By DougJ, Head of Infidelity August 23rd, 2011
Reader P sends in a video about his big, fat gay wedding.
(The embed of this crashed my computer twice so I took it down, you can watch it at the link above.)
Posted in Gay Rights are Human Rights, Readership Capture
Are we sposed to submit videos or just admire the one you post?
August 23rd, 2011 at 9:33 pm
Part of me is hella proud this happened. Part of me wants to giggle maniacally at their folly. My cynicism is showing mightily.
August 23rd, 2011 at 9:39 pm
OK, i get it, Yay!
August 23rd, 2011 at 9:41 pm
What a lovely video. The part where the brother of one of them said how proud he was to have both as brothers made me tear up.
This kind of thing needs wider distribution, really. Two people who love each other wishing to start a family should be something we celebrate, right?
August 23rd, 2011 at 9:42 pm
Fucking awesome. Congrats. Reader P, my fellow Minnesotan. It will come. Soon.
@Yutsano: Dude. Celebrate the love. Save the cynicism for another day. How you be, hon?
ETA: I’m tearing up now. So beautiful.
August 23rd, 2011 at 9:55 pm
Congratulations to the happy couple.
I posted in the last Balloon Jobs thread that I was looking for work. I am happy to say that as of this evening, I have two (2) job offers. I’ve been out of work for quite a few months & am happy to be re-entering the workforce. It requires my wife & I to relocate – so she’ll soon be looking for work.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:00 pm
Now I’m totally bawling. I don’t see how anyone can watch that video and not be moved.
@Seanly: Congrats, Seanly. That’s awesome!
I hope the good luck continues for the BJ crowd.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:01 pm
I’m only part way through, but so far it’s a beautiful video.
@RandyH:
That was lovely by the brother. It really is about creating a family.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:01 pm
Dawwwwwwww! Congratulations!
I love weddings. They are such a blatant and sincere and genuine statement of optimism, for the future, for each other. This made my night.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:05 pm
Congrats! So, is ‘Reader P’ Patrick or Scott? ; )
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:06 pm
@Seanly:
Good luck!
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:07 pm
Congratulations to Patrick and Scott! What a lovely ceremony.
@Seanly: Congratulations, Seanly. Good luck to your wife and I hope you are both happy at your new home.
As someone who’s a bit nervous about the upcoming day, I totally agree with this sentiment.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:19 pm
What struck me was that it was such a normal wedding, boring, people eating and drinking, dancing badly, and in its utter normalness it was utterly beautiful. I have to admit I was moved to tears due to its utter normalness. Because it means WE ARE WINNING, weddings like this are becoming the new normal. They happen without a blip on the political spectrum and are celebrated by family and friends as normally as would a hetrosexual marriage with the white dress and bridesmaids and stuff. This is the new normal. We win.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:20 pm
I don’t always cry at weddings, but I cried at this one. I loved a million things about this video. I loved you guys, loved your vows, loved the way the video was done, loved the fast forward around the food table, loved that you had chocolate cake.
I watched the whole 13.5 minutes of the video, this from someone who is often bandwidth-limited by the end of the day because she chooses service from the small internet provider, even with bandwidth limits, over the evil comcast. So I rarely find any videos worth watching all the way through, but I had to watch yours all the way through.
So I watched the whole video and then had to watch the beginning again because by that time I cared enough about you guys to want to know who was Patrick and who was Scott!
And all those great dancers at the wedding, all in one place. I wish I knew you guys, you and all your friends seem wonderful. Congratulations!
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:24 pm
@Litlebritdifrnt:
I had this same reaction. How could one question WHY gay couples wish to enjoy marriage and the rituals that attend it? Watch this video and have your questions answered poignantly.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:26 pm
That was so great! Made me smile. Best wishes to the very happy couple.
ETA….and loved the shoes!
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:35 pm
i’m not into weddings in general, but i will be happy when everyone has the right to annoy me equally.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:37 pm
Okay, I am now officially over my bandwidth for the day, so my internet access has slowed to a crawl. The video was still worth it! :-)
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:41 pm
@Seanly: This is a cheerful thread! Very happy for you!
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:45 pm
Okay so mayhaps my cynicism is because I’m sitting at work bored off my ass because literally no one is calling. Plus I coiuldn’t watch the vid yet. I might just skip out on cooking tonight and get chicken tacos.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:48 pm
@Yutsano: Post your work number and I think you may get a call or two, though it may not be who you were hoping for or expecting :)
@bodacious: Heh. I have told my friends that if I am still single when I turn 40 I expect a check for $500 from each of them (to cover the bachelor party, travel to the wedding, wedding gift, birth of children, etc). In the unlikely event I get married after 40, I will either reimburse them or they are off the hook for paying for all the things mentioned above.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:51 pm
Ok, the few little tears didn’t drown out my cynicism. When this thing finally goes down and becomes legal everywhere, is the happy couple entitled to more wedding gifts with the ‘official’ ceremony?????? Seriously, what a great celebration. Congrats P and S.
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:52 pm
Congrats! Wedding are awesomer when everybody can wed.
Best wishes always,
August 23rd, 2011 at 10:53 pm
As a boring old guy who’s been in a conventional marriage for over three decades and is still delighted and enchanted by my wife nearly every day, I can only wish that everyone can get the same sort of opportunity for happiness. And clearly it is on its way, as was said, notable by its unremarkableness.
Sorry, +2 and going up.
August 23rd, 2011 at 11:19 pm
Very moving! The couple, their friends and family, the setting(s), the music.
I especially liked the custom vows they exchanged. A couple decades ago some friends (m/f) wrote their own, and I remember their words often (“As long as we shall love each other”)
August 24th, 2011 at 12:14 am
Congrats!
August 24th, 2011 at 12:49 am
@MattR:
Tempting as that is…for what I’m doing you have to get through several filters to get to me. And even then getting specifically ME would take an extreme amount of luck. Plus I’m home and we’re closed now anyway. The offer is much appreciated however. :)
August 24th, 2011 at 12:56 am
Even my Fox-watching parents are starting to come around, kind of—they made stupid grumbles about “who’s the husband?” when they were telling me about it, but they would never dream of being rude to their friend’s son and his husband to their faces.
The world turns slowly, but it does turn.
August 24th, 2011 at 1:35 am
@Yutsano: You know you would love to have Derf call you to bitch about our bloghost. Listening to m_c’s babble over the phone might be interesting, though I still think I have to recommend against it.
August 24th, 2011 at 1:40 am
@MattR: I’ve had to talk to Canuckistanis before. Sucks for them to have assets and income in the US but then not file a return. It can actually risk entry into the country. Not to mention it takes a LOT more for them to prove any sort of hardship. Revenue officers love those.
And that wasn’t just a fantastic wedding video. That was a fucking dare to the voters of Minnesota.
August 24th, 2011 at 1:55 am
@Yutsano:
They have government healthcare. How can they have hardship?
August 24th, 2011 at 2:12 am
@MattR: They could still (technically) be dirt ass poor. Although if they are they’re on my radar not so much. It’s great listening to them try to get out of an American tax lien when they’ve been earning money in the country for years. Although international liens are nearly impossible to enforce. I don’t get very many international cases. When I do it sticks in my brain.
August 24th, 2011 at 2:19 am
@Yutsano:
I don’t think this invalidates my point :)
I imagine all you can do is try to make their life difficult until they get annoyed and pay up. Or hope they slip up and leave assets somewhere that you have jurisdiction.
August 24th, 2011 at 2:22 am
Good tearing up for me. Why the hell do people oppose happiness like this? It’s insanity.
August 24th, 2011 at 9:03 am
I thought I didn’t want a big fat gay wedding, but now I think I really, really do.
Congratulations, Patrick and Scott, and may you grow old together! I love that all the kids who were at your wedding will never understand all the hysteria over gay marriage.
August 24th, 2011 at 4:08 pm